2017 was a whirlwind.
I know this is a little late, seeing as we’re already two weeks into 2018, but hey, better late than never right? I wanted to do a post reflecting on things I’ve learned in 2017, and how it’s changed me, but no just for the better. Sure, I did some personal reflection and I have improved a lot of things, but 2017 brought out some parts of me that I’m not the proudest of.
Starting off with what is probably the thing that influenced me the most, was the 2016 election. The election results affected everyone, and as a political science major, it was interesting to see Trump’s first year in office play out in the news. It saddens me what he has done with the presidency, and in my opinion, I think he’s made a mockery of democracy. He bullies members of his administration for their loyalty and constantly fires back childish responses to other leaders of the world. I’m still learning about the difficult rules of politics myself, but the decisions President Trump has made this past year have me questioning what direction our country’s ideals are headed towards.
I’m not going to lie, having Donald Trump as our president also affected my personal relationships with friends. I no longer speak to a few close friends due to their choice to support President Trump. If you are someone who wants to show support for a President that has made our executive branch of government into a joke, that is completely your choice but is one I don’t have to tolerate. There were so many controversies over people losing relationships due to this and how some people thought it was childish to stop being friends with someone over their choice of candidate, but I think it is perfectly reasonable. If you support someone who is outright sexist and racist, then you are not someone I want to be associated with.
Excuse my politics tangent, I get a little carried away sometimes.
2017 has made me into someone much more independent. I used to be the type of person who would always want to go do things with people, and I would hate having to run errands alone or go to eat alone. Because so many of my friends were either at different colleges or still in high school, the availability for me to see my friends cut down. Although I wasn’t able to see my friends as much, I believe that this strengthened our friendships and made me cherish the times I had with them more. Each time my friends and I went out to dinner or just spent a few hours catching up over coffee, I left with my heart full of happiness. My friendships became stronger because I knew that my friends and I could survive distance and still maintain the same level of love for each other.
I also made new friendships! I started my first semester at community college, and while the classes were difficult, making new relationships seemed to be even harder. But I did manage to make a few new friends, and I’m so happy I did! These people helped me get through difficult times throughout the semester, aka midterms and finals, and the bond created through crying over math problems can never be broken.
One last thing I wanted to touch on about friendships is taking the initiative. I used to hate messaging my friends first to make plans because I thought I would be annoying them. Funny enough, it turned out to be the exact opposite! I’m a very Type A person, so I like to plan, well almost everything that goes on in my life and my friends understood that which is why they knew that I would plan dinners whenever my schedule worked out. They didn’t mean to seem like they weren’t interested in hanging out with me, but instead knew that I liked things to happen a certain way, and they were okay with that. Because of this, I’m no longer afraid of annoying my friends by messaging them first. Taking the initiative on things has been a huge part of 2017, and I hope that I continue to have a take-charge personality throughout 2018.
All in all, I had a pretty good 2017. I graduated from high school, began my first semester at college, and got a lot closer to my friends and family. My one wish for 2018 is to just become the woman I’ve always wanted to be. I’m 18 now! It’s time for me to start finding my place in the world and to pave a path as to where I see myself in five or ten years. In the wise words of Blair Waldorf, “Destiny is for losers. It’s just a stupid excuse to wait for things to happen instead of making them happen.” Screw the idea that “everything happens for a reason.” We’re ignoring fate this year ladies, and making our own dreams come true.